Family Law Blog

For many people, their retirement account is their largest financial asset. It is also, in my experience, one of the most frequently mishandled assets in a divorce, because the rules are more technical than people expect and the cost of getting them wrong tends to be permanent. Whether you have a 401(k), an IRA, a pension, or a public employee plan like CalPERS, the mechanics of dividing it are different in each case. Here is what you need to understand before those decisions

People come into a consultation expecting spousal support to work like a formula. Plug in the numbers, get an answer. California law does not work that way. The amount, the duration, and whether it can be modified later all require a court to weigh a specific set of factors against the circumstances of that particular marriage. Two cases with similar incomes can produce very different outcomes. Here is how the law actually works, what the ten-year mark means, and what kinds o

For most couples, the house is the biggest thing they own. It’s also, almost always, the hardest thing to figure out in a divorce. Part of that is financial. In the Bay Area, especially, a home can represent decades of equity, and what happens to it has real consequences for both people’s lives after the divorce. But part of it is something harder to name. The house is where you live. It might be where your kids grew up. Deciding what to do with it means deciding something ab

You filed the papers. You did the thing you’d been turning over in your mind for months, maybe longer. And now you’re sitting with this strange feeling that nothing is happening. No judge showed up. No resolution arrived. Your spouse may not have even responded yet. Life looks mostly the same from the outside, and yet everything has changed. This is the part nobody warns you about. The first 90 days after filing for divorce in California are quieter than people expect, and mo

Many people say they want an “amicable” divorce. It’s one of the most common phrases couples use when discussing separation, and one of the most misunderstood. Amicable does not mean easy. It does not mean painless. And it does not mean avoiding difficult conversations. In California, an amicable divorce is best understood as a process that is intentional, structured, and informed. Conflict does not disappear; it is managed to prevent it from taking over the entire process. U

February often carries mixed messages about love. Valentine’s Day highlights romance, commitment, and togetherness, but for many people, it also brings quiet tension. You may still care deeply about your partner while sensing, more clearly than before, that the relationship no longer works in the way it once did. Holding both of those truths at the same time can feel heavy. Caring about someone does not automatically mean a relationship is healthy or sustainable. Love and com

You made it through the holidays. You did your best to hold things together, to keep the peace, to get through a season that asks a lot emotionally. Now the decorations are coming down, routines are returning, and you’re left with the same questions you had before. For many people, the holidays become a kind of emotional pause. Couples decide to wait. Conversations get postponed. Difficult truths are set aside in favor of making it through one more gathering, one more family

One of the most unsettling parts of thinking about separation is the uncertainty. Many people imagine that everything will change at once—daily routines, finances, relationships, even their sense of self. That fear of the unknown can feel more unsettling than the separation itself. In reality, some things do change when you separate. Others stay familiar. Understanding the difference can reduce anxiety and help you see what separation actually means, especially within Califor

The first holiday season after a divorce or separation can feel unfamiliar in ways you never expected. Traditions shift. Routines change. Even simple moments can catch you off guard. It’s completely normal to feel sadness, relief, confusion, hope—sometimes all within the same afternoon. Give yourself permission to feel what you feel. There is no “right way” to move through this. Give Yourself Permission to Redefine the Holidays Holidays do not have to look the way they once d

The first holiday season after a divorce or separation can feel tender in ways that catch you off guard. Even when you’re doing your best to move forward, extended family can unintentionally stir up emotions you weren’t prepared for. Questions, assumptions, invitations, expectations—it’s a lot. And none of it means you’re doing anything wrong. It simply means you’re human. You Don’t Owe Anyone an Explanation Most family members mean well, but their curiosity can land in the m

The holidays promise joy, family, and warmth—but for many couples, they also bring stress, financial tension, and emotional strain. When the lights dim and the decorations come down, unresolved issues that were pushed aside often resurface. Across California and beyond, family law attorneys often notice an increase in divorce consultations as the new year begins. For some, the holidays highlight how distant things have become. For others, they confirm what they already feared

Divorce changes more than your relationship status — it changes your sense of security. When emotions run high during a divorce , financial clarity can bring a sense of peace of mind. Many people feel torn between protecting what’s theirs and worrying that it seems selfish. In truth, keeping your separate property separate isn’t about mistrust—it’s about fairness, foresight, and following California law. Protecting your assets doesn’t mean you love or trust your spouse any le

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California has some of the most inclusive and progressive family laws in the country, but LGBTQ+ parents still face unique legal...

Co-parenting is challenging even in the best of circumstances. When your ex refuses to pay court-ordered child support, it can strain...

Co-parenting after a divorce or separation can feel overwhelming. Emotions run high, routines shift, and communication may already be...